There is no denying it, we all have times when we don't feel sexy - especially when the stresses of life take their toll on our moods.
"We are all sexual beings and all have the potential to be sexy," says confidence coach Nina Grunfeld. "Feeling unhappy with yourself can start with a bad hair day or a giant pimple on your chin, and before you know it things have snowballed and you hate your clothes, your are convinced no man would want you and you are cancelling your plans so you can go home to crawl into bed."
How can we stop this destructive way of thinking from dragging us down?
"There are lots of ways to boost your sex appeal that have nothing to do with how you look," Nina says.
Here are FIVE ways to instantly boost your sex appeal:
1. Think Positively
"Thinking about how amazing your last sex session with your man was can get erogenous zones like your lips tingling. The result? You'll feel good," Nina says.
SO next time you need a boost, think about the last time a guy really wanted you - whether it was in the bedroom or dancing in a club - it will give you an instant lift. And once you are feeling good on the inside, you';; ooze confidence.
"Men are drawn to confidence like a magnet. Thinking about sex will make you smile and you will look more approachable."
2. Eat Yourself Sexy
Most of us have eaten chocolate to cheer ourselves up at some point, but scientists have discovered it can actually make you feel sexier, too. The phytochemicals in dark chocolate boost blood flow all over your body, including the brain and the sexual organs.
"Chocolate causes the release of endorphins in the brain, too - chemicals which make us feel good. There is also a research which shows that chocolate gives you a natural high, albeit a mild one."
And as if that wasn't good enough, scientists have also discovered that eating ice cream increases your libido. It contains phosphorus, which boosts your libido by releasing feel-good endorphins into your body, making you feel instant sexier.
3. Make Him Want You
"Sexiness comes from being care-free and fun. So not taking yourself too seriously is the ultimate secret to looking sexy," says Nina.
Next time you are feeling below par, remember you can turn most situations around by learning to laugh at yourself.
"If you are the girl who always spills your drink, make a joke of it. It shows you're a good sport and people will realise you are not uptight or neurotic."
Laughter also releases feel-good endorphins, which make you feel happy.
"If you project positive vibes it creates instant sex appeal. And don't forget to smile. Smiling is a genuine approval signal. Flashing him a smile will boost his confidence, and it will also soften your features, making you look prettier."
4. Tease His Senses
"The right scent will act as a mental and emotional aphrodisiac. Vanilla-based scents enhance feelings of pleasure and for subtle sex appeal, try something that contains notes of white flowers like jasmine. This activates the subconscious part of your brain to think about having sex."
The part of your brain that recongises scent is the same that detects emotion, so for an instant turn-on, put on the same fragrance you wore on your last hot date. Perfume is also scientifically proven to increase the flow of blood to male sex organs. Studies show that men were most aroused - with 40% more blood flow to the penis - by the smell of lavender.
5. Have Sex After Sunset
Men's testosterone levels peak in the morning and decrease during the day, while women feel aroused early evening when the sun sets. SO grab him as soon as he gets in from work to make the most of your natural erotic boosters.
"Making a move on your man is a massive turn-on for both of you. Use the time when you are most aroused as a confidence booster, and suggest a quickie. It's your way of saying, 'I know I'm hot and I want this now'."